Love – isn’t that a beautiful word? Isn’t
it a wonderful feeling when you are in love? All those butterflies fluttering
in your stomach…your pupil dilating when you see that special someone…your
eagerness to meet that one person…you wish that the hands of the clock stay
still and you get enraptured forever in that moment… Sounds
very romantic, right? If you are experiencing all the above, that means you are
falling in love or have already fallen in love. But here, the question arises
that -are these feelings constant??
I am going to talk about something which we
do not tend to discuss in open. It is called “Falling out of love”. I am sure
many of us experience this, but we do not speak up about this. Imagine being in
love with the person for whom you can go up till any extent just to see them
happy, but they just do not seem to give a damn about you. You are no more
special to them. You have just become a part of their life and they are living
with it. All those promises made at the budding stage of the relationship holds
no value now.
It is rightly said that things start to
lose their value once you have them. That person forgets about all the efforts
that they took to get you. In short, you are now taken for GRANTED. You tell
them about your wishes and desires but those really don’t hold any worth
anymore. Your wishes are rarely fulfilled and that can be very disheartening.
Cheating is not the only way you may lose
interest in your partner. Well, there are more. They are not paying attention
to what you say or feel, not being a good listener, not fulfilling the small
things that matters the most to you …you can lose affection for her/him
forever. We have to understand that everyone has a good day and a bad day and
all we really wish during those bad tiresome days, is someone holding us and
saying – “It’s going to be alright! We can overcome it together! .“
Life is not that difficult as much as we
make it. We complicate it by our inability to comprehend other’s problems. A
thing which can seem insignificant to you might mean a lot to your partner and
that’s when they show up and tell you about what is bothering them. And what do
you do in such a scenario? Instead of understanding, you shut your partner
down, you ignore their needs. You get involved in your own life. This can drift
your partner away from you. It affects their mental well-being. They start
questioning their self worth.
So what do you do when you feel that you
are falling out of love? Do you hold on to them or move on with your life? Love
is a difficult subject to fathom. You can give them chances and see if they try
to change themselves. If not, then it is time to call it off. You have to
retrench all that love within your heart for them. After all, YOU should be your first love, and no
one is more important than your own mental health.
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